Sex and Humor

Sex and humor is much more acceptable to discuss than than it was 50 years ago. Particularly the topic of sex, which was only whispered about and was kept within the confines of bedroom walls.  

Sex and humor go together like a Big Mac and fries. Many couples will agree that humor and laughter and fun around sex should not be ignored as important components.

According to a recent Reader's Digest survey, married couples in the United States are happier and more fulfilled in their unions than ever before.

When husbands and wives chose from a list of options the factors that were most important for a good marriage, humor specifically, time spent talking, laughing and having fun was deemed far more important than either the quality or frequency of sex.

Humor's sexual side findings

Finding # 1

  • When the 1,001 married people surveyed were asked if they would marry their spouse again, 71% agreed they would.
  • 62% of respondents said "I love my spouse even more than we were first married.
  • 61% of respondents married 21 years or more find their marriage is better than the typical American marriage.

Finding # 2

When husbands and wives chose the factors for a good marriage from a list of options, the following items rose to the top and fell to the bottom.

  • Trust: 63%
  • Time spent talking, laughing, having fun: 52%
  • Compatibility: 30 %
  • Quality of sex: 13 %
  • Frequency of sex: 9%

So why is humor important around sex? It's really quite simple. You can laugh anywhere and at any time. In your vehicle, at work, while working out, while shopping, at your favorite coffee bar, or eatery, and even while you're having sex.

Some will argue that you can have sex at some of these places, and no doubt some have. With sex, once you've done your workout, you need to recharge and rest more than likely before you start another workout.

With laughing, you just catch your breath and you can start all over again.

There is no denying that when you have had a tear flowing, face-aching, belly jiggling bout of laughter the feeling is indescribable!

Humor and sex are not incompatible. This was aptly illustrated by sex expert Dr. Ruth Westheimer.

Dr. Ruth Westheimer is a sex therapist and internationally recognized media personality. She is America's favorite sex therapist.

She began her career as a Sex Therapist at the age of 50. She was able to address an hereto 'taboo subject' with a sense of humor and helpful advice on how to achieve happiness and fulfillment.

Her philosophy on how to achieve a happy and balance life was to have a happy and balanced life was to have a happy sex life. As she related in an interview, "I certainly believe in the need for sexuality education. I do believe that it has to be taught based on scientifically validated data, and it has to be taught with some kind of humor."

Her 15 minute show that aired after midnight on a New York City radio station provided the public with exactly that - sex advice with a humorous slant.

When was the last time you laughed during sex? A healthy sex life should have some humor in it. There are times for serious lovemaking of course, but there is something to be said about a couple that is able to lighten up and have some fun once in a while.

Life is far too serious for most of us and this may provide the ideal setting to introduce some fun into what many view as a routine that one has to put up with.

We are all children at heart and some playfulness and fun adventuring may be just what the doctor ordered. The extent of playfulness and adventure are only limited by your imagination.

I recently overheard a conversation between some teenage girls. One commented that her parents still had sex. "Aw yuck!," the other teenagers exclaimed. Then she said that she overheard her parents saying that her grandparents still had sex. This resulted in the other girls commenting, "That is absolutely gross!"

According to them, life is over at 40. I like to think that we are only as old as we think we are. Just because there is snow on the roof, does not mean that there can't be fire in the fireplace!

Life doesn't end at middle age, as a matter of fact, many claim it gets better. Most older couples don't let a few aches and pains slow them down.

That is where a sense of humor come int9o play. When we laugh about our inadequacies, it only helps to strengthen the relationship bond and appreciation of one anther.

For more information, quotes and sexual wisdom visit Dr. Ruth Westheimer's website at

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